Have you ever walked around in a stationary shop and seen the most perfect little diary, filled with the smell of fresh pages, crisp, and just wanted to take it home? Then you bring it home and its too pretty to taint by writing in it. You keep thinking to yourself “I will write when I think of something amazing that is good enough for the diary” and then you forget all about it until months or years later.
It doesn’t have to be a diary. It could be that cute little dress you bought, or those amazing shoes, that delicate set of good cutlery, the wine that is too expensive to drink on just any ordinary day. How often do we collect these set of too good to use things and just forget about them for a while?
Why do we do this? Do we just like to hoard things? Is it some sort of perverse desire to own things, to possess them, even if we don’t use them, just so they are with us?
Don’t we do this with the people we love? Ask someone who has been married for a long time and they will tell you that some times they feel that their partners don’t cherish or value them as much as they did when they first met.
When we first meet someone and fall in love, we go out of our way to impress them, to make them happy, to get them to love us. What happens when we do get them? Slowly, we begin to take them for granted. Slowly, we just stop taking efforts for them. Once we have them, we stop trying to get them. That is natural. But is it also the cause of the magic fading away from our relationships?
Maybe one day, we may realize its too late to write in that diary, for we have no time, or its already old and dusty. Or that dress doesn’t fit anymore. The perfect occasion to drink that wine never really arrived. Why wait?
Why not make that effort now? Why not live in the moment now? Why postpone moments of little joys? Why not make that effort to make your partner smile today?