The illusion of you being in control of your own life is quite an intricate one.
Just like adults entertain the dreams of kids but letting them believe that they have built an actual castle instead of a sand one.
We let them feel they can do whatever they want.
Are we making them brave,by having the courage to dream? By letting them believe that dreams do come true? Or are we damaging their sense of the reality . Making them see a perfect illusion of the world. A Utopian world which doesn’t exist.
Are we building them up for a big heartbreak for their future when the reality of life and the world comes crashing down on them?
The fact is that sometimes no matter what you do, it’s never enough.
Sometimes perseverance isn’t the key. Fate is.
Sometimes even in moments of utter desperation you know no matter what you do it won’t be enough. It won’t be enough to make someone love you. Or get that dream house you’ve always wanted.
It’s an external locus of control.
Sometimes things work out in your favor even though you probably did not see it happening to you. Sometimes you get lucky.
Sometimes you don’t.